Homosexuality

Story by Scotty Gray.

I was just thinking…about Homosexuality.

Back in 2006, I made some comments on the air about the subject, and received an email from a gentleman I’ll call Howard.

Howard was married and had young adult children. However, he was living in adulterous homosexuality.

He said, “a person who believes that gay marriage has an adverse affect on our society is an ‘underinformed, misinformed, hateful, fearful bigot.’”  Isn’t that, in itself, a hateful statement?  This is not just a “moral religious issue.”  Research has indeed proven that the gay lifestyle is harmful to our society.  Homosexuality has been the leading cause of the spread of AIDS and other STDs.  I have personally lost a good friend to AIDS because he chose to accept the way he was “wired.”  Surveys of homosexuals have shown that a large majority do not hold that sex should be only between two individuals in a monogamous relationship, but that sexuality is part of relationships in general.  Many view all sorts of sexually deviant activities as acceptable.  I have personally been a victim of this mentality.  Gay marriage rights are only a step in the direction toward a totally unrestrained sexual society that holds physical and social dangers beyond our comprehension.

I did agree with Howard on one thing: many homosexuals that I know are as loving and accepting, if not more so, as many Christians.  I accept these people for who they are, even though I disagree with their lifestyle choices and fear for the consequences they will one day face.  We cannot, however, let that detract us from the core issue that homosexual activity is a sin.  God did not say that we should be holy in all areas of life except our sex life, he commands us to be holy in every area.  I used to say that homosexual behavior is no worse than any other sin; but I was wrong.  Scripture specifically “calls out” homosexuality in both the old and New Testament.  But what about the person who has a “predisposition?”  If I have an overwhelming desire to have sex with children, to steal, to expose myself in public, or to be sexually active outside of marriage in any fashion…should I not embrace these things because it’s the “way I’m wired?”  Then where does it end?  Where do we draw a “sin line?”  It ends when we stop making excuses for our sin and take up the battle, fighting with all of our strength, all our lives, if need be.  There is no “gay gene”, no physiological predisposition toward homosexuality.  There is, however, a spiritual predisposition toward sin.

I shared with Howard that like him, I had a lifelong struggle with desires that are contrary to God’s desires for my life.  Although it affects both genders, sexual deviance affects men to a much greater degree, in part, due to the massive indoctrination by our increasingly amoral entertainment industry. I think if they were honest, an overwhelming majority of men would admit to some deviant desires.

I summarized my response by saying that I had prayed for God to remove my sinful desires so that I could put all my efforts into serving him better, but he hadn’t.  What he did do, was ask me to be diligent in resisting all sin, allowing me to be an encouragement as I ask others to do the same, to seek strength from others, and rely on Him in all things.  I’m a guy, so the struggle will always be before me, but the more I overcome, the easier it gets…which brings me peace.

…and that’s something I was just thinking, on Q 90 fm.

Editor’s note. As Scotty pointed out, Homosexuality is not in our genes, but sin is. Like Scotty, I was molested as a young boy by an uncle. He was molested as a young man when he went to Seminary believing he wanted to become a priest. Ultimately, he didn’t, and finally got married, (to a woman) much later in life. If I had not met Laurie, my wife for nearly 50 years now, I can only imagine who I would have become and what my life would have looked like if I had followed those urgings early in my life. I know that I know, God orchestrated our meeting while on summer vacation when I was 17 and she was 15. If it hadn’t been for that, and going in the Military – who knows?